I love ME the Self-Care to Mental Energy 102

“Humanity was born from conflict. Maybe that's why in all of us lives a dark side. Some of us choose to embrace it. Some have no choice. The rest of us fight it. But in the end, it's as natural as the air we breathe. At some point, all of us are forced to face the truth. OURSELVES. A man who chose to embrace his dark side, and by doing so, he took humanity. We put on a mask to hide what now suffocates us. The truth. And nothing speaks louder than the truth.” - Unknown

When you begin to believe your own lies:

When you start to believe the lies you tell yourself, it becomes personal; you become attached to the ideas and stories you create in your head. You become caught up in your own delusion. You find pleasure in your drama because this is what we have learned throughout our lifetime and how we cope with life. We become complaisant with what we learn and what we believe that this is the way life is. We become dependent to the results of our usual mental emotional events in your life.


We feel depleted and have a sick feeling of being anxious, stressed and worried. We feel anxious and stressed because we let the story in our mind take over us. Our body will give into this stress and become physical illness. We feel the need to fill the void with more void-ness.


The best way to not be in your head is to meditate then redirect what you are doing by taking the action of doing something you enjoy or tending to a goal that needs your attention. This will help with your mental ability to adapt to a more positive energy.


ME (Mental Energy) Tracker:

Throughout your day jot down everything you are feeling and why. If you are not sure about your why then just write down whatever comes to mind. Notice what triggered this emotion. Track all the emotions that come up and do not to let this affect your day. It will just become worse if you keep feeding the ego and indulging in fearful energy.


How to re-energize the lack of ME (Mental Energy):

Do not let the mental emotions take over your body; instead, let it go. It is easier said than done especially when you do not know how to let go. Letting go is not learning to forgive the other person and their action. It is about forgiving yourself your thoughts and actions. It is easier to forgive others than yourself because we are hard on our self all the time. Maybe that what you need to work on in the meantime and that’s totally okay.


Find a quiet space to sit in silence with yourself. This will not be easy to do because we aren’t used to sitting in silence especially by ourselves. We become anxious and fearful about what we find out about our self. I know I was, and do it every now and then. We don’t want to hear our truth because the truth is painful and seems like a lie. The truth is we lie to ourselves all the time. Sit for 10 minutes or longer as needed to remove all the negative energy from your mind, emotions and physical body.


While you sit there ask yourself the following questions:

1.     Why am I feeling this fear or all or any of its facets?

2.     What am I afraid of? Recognize what you are so afraid of.

3.     What happens if this fear comes true? It’s never life or death.

4.     What am I attached to?

5.     Am I living in the past? Or the future?


Remember this is a time for you to be very honest and truthful with yourself. At this point no one is judging or watching you but you. Be brutally truthful and clear with your answer. Be fearless and welcome everything with Love.


In the past couple weeks I’ve been feeling annoyed with someone. It began making me feel anger and hate. And of course because of the fear I felt I didn’t have room for Love. I could not feel compassion or empathy toward this person. I noticed that I also stopped my morning routine of meditation practice.

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. - Mother Theresa

I knew what I needed to do but somehow I was letting my fear win. Then I finally pushed myself to do my morning routine. I did exactly what I mentioned above. I began crying before I sat in my chair.


What I was most afraid of was not being liked. The root of this is when I was young I was an outspoken child. I would say things like they were. But when a group of people do not like a child that knows what she wants, you become outcast. So then I became complaisant with them so I could be liked and be part of the group. Kids are cruel. This is why I stopped being an assertive person.


With this self-realization, I felt better and more at ease and felt love for this person again.


Once you are done acknowledging your fear, Journal. Write down what happens. First write down the problem, what was bothering you, why, and what prompted this issue. Then on the bottom write down your solution in a positive manner. Write it down in a positive voice. By ending your journaling in a positive words it will help manifest the positivity that the world will conspire with you. Notice your life will begin to progress for the best.


May this help you in your journey and closer to LYF (loving yourself forever).

Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossoms in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort. – Deborah Day